So what are the odds...

An entire day in bed recovering from illness leads to lots of time to research the internet.

Mostly I find things confirming my low chances. Then this study appears to confirm that while giving a bit of hope:

If I am reading Abdalla H & Thum MY (2004)'s abstract correctly, women with FSH >20 (i.e., me), have a only a 3% live birth rate and pregnancy rate, however when broke down by age, women under 38 years of age odds went up to 16.7%.

16% sounds pretty darn good (although my levels are well over 20, so this might not apply AT ALL to me).

Also, the young women with high FSH had better stats for live births than 38+ year old women with FSH under 10. Granted these are women who are receiving treatment, not numbers on spontaneous conception.

What is a girl like me to think..... are my eggs just as good as the 38 year old eggs my friend has offered?

Quote from study's abstract:

"group A, FSH <10>20 IU/ml. Each group was stratified further into subgroups according to age, < or ="38">38 years. RESULTS: Both PR (A, 32.3%; B, 19.8%; C, 17.5%; and D, 3%) and LBR (A, 24.7%; B, 13.2%; C, 13.8%; and D, 3%) were significantly reduced in the higher FSH level groups. LBR was significantly higher in the younger subgroups (A, 32.2%; B, 21.8%; C, 20%; and D, 16.7%) as compared with the older subgroups (A, 12.1%; B, 8.3%; C, 10.5%; and D, 0%)."

The same authors seem to have a running theme on high FSH.